Getting in touch with our anger is an integral part of the healing process, given that suppression of anger was essential to our survival as adoptees and surrendering parents but thus buried so deep we often are no longer consciously aware of its stranglehold on our psyches. Unacknowledged anger can then be displaced onto other people or situations, undermining our lives, and can begin to impair our health. Especially for earlier generations, expressing anger was frowned upon, if not completely prohibited, making it impossible to access our anger and stand up for our selves. I have often wondered, had I been allowed when it was all happening to express my anger over being banished to a home
Who remembers the Information Superhighway of the nineties? I first heard about it in 1995, just before NBC aired the film version of The Other Mother and a reporter phoned for an interview. As I answered the questions received by him from people who had read the book, I tried to imagine how my responses would float out into the ethers and actually reach others. The following week, I attended the annual American Adoption Congress conference in Las Vegas, where people were already figuring out how to use the Superhighway for searches, as if our collective need to find lost family had propelled its existence. Before the Internet, a much greater percentage of searches were heartbreakingly long
