(Note: This article was previously published in the Huffington Post.) When I began the search in 1984 for the son I’d surrendered to adoption, I was so naïve. Never would I have imagined his adoptive mother wouldn’t want to know me. After all, we shared the same child, though in different ways. What more meaningful relationship could there be? Then I began hearing heartbreaking stories of birth/first mothers receiving threatening letters through lawyers, of phone numbers bein