Over all the many years of being involved in adoption issues, since searching for my son in 1984, and with the thousands of stories I’ve been privileged to hear, I’ve made an observation about reunions. They mirror the time of relinquishment. The very issues that created the surrender of our child will painfully resurface at the time of reunion. But because the painful memories have been repressed for so long, we can misplace the reason for the sudden feelings and blame the r