SOUL LOSS IN ADOPTION: A SHAMANIC PERSPECTIVE ON HOW TO HEAL MOTHER/INFANT SEPARATION
To survive the loss of our child, we must become someone new, not who we were meant to be. And so do our children. The shock of...
HOW TO COMMUNICATE WHEN THERE’S NO COMMUNICATION
*When you haven’t found your child or birth family yet. *When you meet and it didn’t go well, and now they don’t accept calls or texts....
ALONE: Memories Intensify with COVID-19
For those of us who were sent away to maternity homes or to stay with strangers to give birth alone, this time of isolation because of...
WHY WE CAN’T HEAL, AND HOW WE CAN - THE ESSENTIAL STEP TO HEALING TRAUMA AND PTSD
Trauma is the result of an experience we don’t want to relive, one that we feel helpless to deal with and believe there is no way out of....
ADOPTION REUNION AS THE HERO’S JOURNEY
The hero’s journey begins with a call from deep within that finally surfaces and can no longer be ignored. The call is almost always met...
THE CHILDREN FROM MEXICO WILL REMAIN IN MY HEART FOREVER THEY UNDERSTOOD ME WHEN MANY OTHERS DIDN’T
One spring day in 1999, I received a call asking me to speak to a fourth grade class on being an author. People from all kinds of...
Unwed Mothers and the Vietnam War
“Hello darkness my old friend, I’ve come to talk with you again.” Raw is the only way I can describe how I felt watching Ken Burn’s PBS...
Two Mothers Share a Child Why Can't Their Hearts Be Open to Each Other?
(Note: This article was previously published in the Huffington Post.) When I began the search in 1984 for the son I’d surrendered to...
Reunion: The Shattered Mirror
Over all the many years of being involved in adoption issues, since searching for my son in 1984, and with the thousands of stories I’ve...
What Does It Mean to Be a Mother?
NOTE: I was asked to speak at a conference in Desenzano, Italy, whose sole focus was "The Search of Origin in the Evolutive Construction...
